After a bit of a hiatus on here. I am ready to put down some thoughts.
I have come into a situation that has recently reared its ugly head again. Its called long distance friendships.
You know how that saying goes, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder," was obviously blinded by love, because absence doesn't make my heart do anything nice.
That saying really does make me laugh. I find no truth in it at all.
The next thing I have learned over the last few months, was that the most important thing, is relationships, relationships, relationships. This means relationship with God, relationships with others, and relationship with yourself. The importance lies in with being in fellowship with others. Its like we as people crave it. I know I do.
Do you ever feel upset or uneasy when you aren't in fellowship with someone? I do. I hate it. It is like living in secrets or always feeling like you are mad at someone. What's worse? The worst thing is that they don't understand what you need. It is simple really. To hear three words..."I HEAR YOU." That would mean the world to me.
I will admit I have a hard time with understanding the other side of a person's perspective. On my defense it is hard to realize when so much time goes without saying anything between the friendship.
Right or wrong, I sent a message to my friend, and more so I have just been feeling ignored. Its not that I was saying our friendship has been less because of the no communication, but it feels like it. It is hard to talk myself into that person and you still having somewhat of a friendship, without talking for four months. All I was looking for was some truth. If I am not supposed to be in your life right now, I'd rather know now, than go on without any hope. It just makes a person go crazy and overall frustrated. I know from experience.
The Response:
She responded with angry words and I can tell she was frustrated. It's funny that the things I am frustrated with are the exact opposite of what she is frustrated with. She doesn't understand why I don't understand and I don't understand why she doesn't understand. The response I was looking for was more understanding, that she would say, "I hear you." Something like, "I can see you are struggling and have been reaching out more..." Overall I just wanted to feel validated and heard. But I didn't get anything like that. It was even threatened that the friendship be terminated. Talking to a friend tonight helped because it was stated that the friend has now handed me terms of the relationship and how far she is willing to go right now, which isn't that much. Now I have to decide what to do.
The Holy Spirit speaks:
Everyone wants to know the solution or figure out why you are frustrated over an issue. There has to be an underlying reason, right? This is what I figured out. 1. We valued our relationship differently and that is why we had a miscommunication over not communicating. Hence the frustration on both of our parts. 2. Relationships are important as stated above. Any way you cut it if you are out of fellowship with someone for any length of time, the friendship or relationship will suffer. It will not go back to the way it was. It just doesn't work like that.
Keep the faith and relying on God, even if it is the hard thing to do.
